Identity

Before considering what your child will go when they grow up, ensure your child knows who they are. Our identity is determined by God and remains true our entire life. It’s who God sees us to be: perfect and chosen sons and daughters of the King. Fully known and still...fully loved. Citizens of Heaven. Blessed. Forgiven. Saved.


As parents, it’s crucial to focus on who your child is, not what they are going to do when they grow up. Because we bring who we are into everything we do. It’s so easy to parent toward their skills, talents, and activities while, without even knowing it, losing intentionality in growing their heart and their character.

When you focus on who you want your child to be, it changes the way you parent. You slow down and you pay more attention to the little things. Remember, you aren’t raising a child, you’re raising an adult. The end of parenting is to one day send out a mature adult into the world. One who has a rock-solid foundation of their identity in Christ.


You can start by focusing on who your child is - or more important - whose they are. God’s Word is very clear that the identity of any believer is rooted and grounded in an unshakeable foundation. The value, worth, and identity of every single person isn’t based on what the world says about them, but what God says about them:


  • I am a child of God (John 1:12)

  • I am God’s masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10)

  • I am a friend of Jesus (Romans 3:24)

  • I have direct access to God (Ephesians 2:18)

  • I am chosen, holy, and blameless before God (Ephesians 1:4)

  • I’ve been adopted into God’s family (Rom 8:15)

  • I am justified and redeemed (Romans 3:24)

  • I am forgiven by the grace of Christ (Ephesians 1:7)

  • I will not be condemned by God (Romans 8:1)

  • I am no longer a slave to sin (Romans 6:6)

  • I have been set free (Galatians 5:1)

  • I have been called to be a saint (1 Corinthians 1:2)

  • My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who lives in me (1 Corinthians 6:19)

  • I am a new creation in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17)

  • I am a citizen of heaven (Philippians 3:20)

  • God supplies all my needs (Philippians 4:19)

  • I have been made complete in Christ (Colossians 2:10)

  • I am to be the light of the world (Matthew 5:14)

  • I am loved beyond measure (Rom 8:38-39)